Domestic Violence, Part 5 (God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #73)

God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #73

Welcome to God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems podcast. This is podcast #73

My name is Daniel Whyte III, president of Ordained Chaplains USA and Life coach. We don’t have to look far to see that many people in the world are dealing with a variety of problems and are in need of solutions. No matter what problem you are facing — whether it is emotional, psychological or spiritual — Jesus Christ holds the solution that you need. As we walk together in this podcast, we will address a number of topics that exist in the world and present solutions from the Bible that will help you heal and live life more abundantly. Our aim in this podcast is: (1) to introduce you to our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, the ultimate source of all healing; (2) to provide you with information that will help you to understand the problem; and (3) to help you by providing solutions to your problems.

Our passage from the Word of God today is Proverbs 25:28. It reads, “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”

Allow me to share with you some interesting points on this passage from Matthew Henry’s Commentary:

The good character of a wise and virtuous man implied. He is one that has rule over his own spirit; he maintains the government of himself, and of his own appetites and passions, and does not suffer them to rebel against reason and conscience. He has the rule of his own thoughts, his desires, his inclinations, his resentments, and keeps them all in good order. The bad case of a vicious man, who has not this rule over his own spirit, who, when temptations to excess in eating or drinking are before him, has no government of himself, when he is provoked breaks out into exorbitant passions, such a one is like a city that is broken down and without walls. All that is good goes out, and forsakes him; all that is evil breaks in upon him. He lies exposed to all the temptations of Satan and becomes an easy prey to that enemy; he is also liable to many troubles and vexations; it is likewise as much a reproach to him as it is to a city to have its walls ruined.

Our quote for today is from Martin Luther. He said, “What you do in your house is worth as much as if you did it up in heaven for our Lord God. We should accustom ourselves to think of our position and work as sacred and well-pleasing to God, not on account of the position and work, but on account of the word and faith from which the obedience and the work flow.”

The problem we are discussing today is “Domestic Violence” (part 5) from the book, “The Guide to Biblical Counseling” by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

The following steps are specific actions for the counselor to take.

1. Provide for Safety
Reassurance of the person’s safety (and that of any children involved) is the first priority.
Empower the victim to separate from their abuser if necessary.

2. Have a Plan
Help the person develop a plan for the next time abuse occurs.
Be sure the victim has numbers to call — police, a family shelter or hotline, and a trusted friend or counselor. These numbers should be in an easily accessible place.
If the victim decides to leave, where will they go? Who will they call?
Advise the victim to have bags with essentials packed and in an easily accessible location so he or she and the children can leave quickly if needed.
The victim should photocopy important documents and have them packed as well.
Think through how the victim can access money, car keys, and important documents if she does need to leave suddenly.
If he or she needs to leave at some point after an abusive incident, tell them that no argument or discussion should happen at this point, but she should calmly exit and go to a location predetermined with the people at that location (if the place is with a friend or family member).

3. Follow Up
After the first session, put a follow-up plan in place for the victim to get continued help.

4. Provide Reassurance
Reassure the person that abuse is never “deserved” and is always wrong.
A husband’s role of headship in a marriage never includes the right to control or abuse. A wife’s role never includes the right to control or abuse, nor does it include submitting to abuse.

5. Assess Relationships
Assess how much support the person has and encourage him or her to reach out to others for help.
A victim of abuse is often isolated, both out of shame over the situation and the abuser’s need to control.

In our next broadcast, we will continue looking at the problem of Domestic Violence.


Now, if you are listening today, and you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Saviour, allow me to show you how.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

If you have other questions about life’s problems for this podcast, please email us

Until next time, my friend remember that God has a solution to all of your problems.

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