Divorce, Part 2 (God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #62)

God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #62

Welcome to God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems podcast. This is podcast #62

My name is Daniel Whyte III, president of Ordained Chaplains USA and Life coach. We don’t have to look far to see that many people in the world are dealing with a variety of problems and are in need of solutions. No matter what problem you are facing — whether it is emotional, psychological or spiritual — Jesus Christ holds the solution that you need. As we walk together in this podcast, we will address a number of topics that exist in the world and present solutions from the Bible that will help you heal and live life more abundantly. Our aim in this podcast is: (1) to introduce you to our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, the ultimate source of all healing; (2) to provide you with information that will help you to understand the problem; and (3) to help you by providing solutions to your problems.

Our passage from the Word of God today is Malachi 2:16. It reads, “For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.”

Allow me to share with you some interesting points on this passage from Matthew Henry’s Commentary:

The God of Israel saith that He hateth putting away. He hath indeed permitted it to the Jews, for the hardness of their hearts, or, rather, limited and clogged it; but He hated it, especially as those practised it who put away their wives for every cause. Let those wives that elope from their husbands and put themselves away, those husbands that are cruel to their wives and turn them away, or take their affections off from their wives and place them upon others, yea, and those husbands and wives that live asunder by consent, for want of love to each other, let such as these know that the God of Israel hates such practices, however vain men may make a jest of them. Let us see the caution inferred from all this. We have it twice (v. 15): Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth; and again, v. 16. Note, Those that would be kept from sin must take heed to their spirits, for there all sin begins; they must keep their hearts with all diligence, must keep a jealous eye upon them and a strict hand, and must watch against the first risings of sin there. We shall act as we are spirited; and therefore, that we may regulate our actions, we must consider what manner of spirit we are of; we must take heed to our spirits with reference to our particular relations, and see that we stand rightly affected to them and be of a good temper, for otherwise we shall be in danger of dealing treacherously. If our own hearts deal treacherously with us, whom will they not deal treacherously with?

Our quote for today is from Ruth Bell Graham. She said, “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”

The problem we are discussing today is “Divorce” (part 2) from the book, “The Guide to Biblical Counseling” by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

Scriptural View of Divorce
Malachi 2:16 says that the Lord hates divorce. The rest of the verse reveals that Malachi was speaking to men who were disloyal to their wives. Gd’s compassion toward the injured party is clear.

Romans 12:15 says that we should “weep with those who weep.” People recovering from the trauma of a broken marriage need the church to:

— share in their sorrow
— offer compassion
— give reassurance that their church family will not reject them
— impart hope that God will somehow bring good out of this
— offer opportunities to serve in the church

Biblical Reasons for Divorce
Sexual activity outside the marital covenant breaks the marriage vow. In Matthew 19:9 Jesus said that if a spouse has committed this type of sin, the other spouse is free to divorce and remarry. This does not mean divorce is required in instances where sexual sin has been committed, but it is permitted.
Some maintain that the abandonment of a believer by a nonbelieving spouse leaves the believing spouse free to divorce the deserter (see 1 Cor. 7:15).

Reasons for Separation
Physical abuse is not addressed in the Bible as a reason for divorce, but nowhere does Scripture specifically command a woman to stay in a home where she or her children are being physically abused. Separation (not divorce) is necessary for physical safety. Restoration should be predicated on true repentance and by a significant change in the abuser’s behaviour that lasts for an extended period of time. The church can serve as a protector of the abused by helping them find a safe place to stay, counseling, providing economic assistance, and using church discipline to hold the abusive spouse accountable.
Mental or verbal abuse is not a biblical reason for divorce, although in some cases, such as severe belittling and demeaning behaviour, it can be a cause for separation. Restoration should follow the pattern established for physical abuse.
Chemical addictions to drugs or alcohol that result in harmful behaviour to the spouse or children can be a reason for separation. Restoration should follow the pattern established for physical abuse.
Physical neglect, such as not providing appropriate food, clothing, shelter, or supervision for the children, or physical abuse can result in life-threatening situations. The spouse should remove the children or the addict from the home to provide a safe environment for the children. Restoration should again follow the pattern outlined for physical abuse with the church functioning in the role of a safe haven.

Consequences of Divorce
Divorce creates new problems in exchange for the old ones.
Divorce devastates children. Research shows that, for most children, the pain they feel from the breakup of their home is just as painful ten years after the divorce as it was at the time of the divorce. The pain follows them into adulthood and affects their personalities and life choices.

In our next broadcast, we will continue looking at the problem of Divorce.

—–PRAYER—–

Now, if you are listening today, and you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Saviour, allow me to show you how.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

If you have other questions about life’s problems for this podcast, please email us coach@ordainedchaplainsusa.org.

Until next time, my friend remember that God has a solution to all of your problems.

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