PODCAST: Divorce, Part 1 (God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #61 with Daniel Whyte III)

God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems #61

Welcome to God’s Solutions for Today’s Problems podcast. This is podcast #61.

My name is Daniel Whyte III, president of Ordained Chaplains USA and Life coach. We don’t have to look far to see that many people in the world are dealing with a variety of problems and are in need of solutions. No matter what problem you are facing — whether it is emotional, psychological or spiritual — Jesus Christ holds the solution that you need. As we walk together in this podcast, we will address a number of topics that exist in the world and present solutions from the Bible that will help you heal and live life more abundantly. Our aim in this podcast is: (1) to introduce you to our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, the ultimate source of all healing; (2) to provide you with information that will help you to understand the problem; and (3) to help you by providing solutions to your problems.

Our passage from the Word of God today is Matthew 19:5-6. It reads, “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

Allow me to share with you some interesting points on this passage from Matthew Henry’s Commentary:

The relation between husband and wife is nearer than that between parents and children; now, if the filial relation may not easily be violated, much less may the marriage union be broken. May a child desert his parents, or may a parent abandon his children, for any cause, for every cause? No, by no means. Much less may a husband put away his wife, betwixt whom, though not by nature, yet by divine appointment, the relation is nearer, and the bond of union stronger, than between parents and children; for that is in a great measure superseded by marriage, when a man must leave his parents, to cleave to his wife. See here the power of a divine institution, that the result of it is a union stronger than that which results from the highest obligations of nature.3. The nature of the marriage contract; it is a union of persons; They twain shall be one flesh, so that they are no more twain, but one flesh. A man’s children are pieces of himself, but his wife is himself. As the conjugal union is closer than that between parents and children, so it is in a manner equivalent to that between one member and another in the natural body. As this is a reason why husbands should love their wives, so it is a reason why they should not put away their wives, for no man ever yet hated his own flesh, or cut it off, but nourishes and cherishes it, and does all he can to preserve it. They two shall be one, therefore there must be but one wife, for God made but one Eve for one Adam. From hence he infers, What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Note, (1.) Husband and wife are of God’s joining together; synezeuxen —he hath yoked them together, so the word is, and it is very significant. God himself instituted the relation between husband and wife in the state of innocence. Marriage and the sabbath are the most ancient of divine ordinances. Though marriage be not peculiar to the church, but common to the world, yet, being stamped with a divine institution, and here ratified by our Lord Jesus, it ought to be managed after a godly sort, and sanctified by the word of God, and prayer. A conscientious regard to God in this ordinance would have a good influence upon the duty, and consequently upon the comfort, of the relation. (2.) Husband and wife, being joined together by the ordinance of God, are not to be put asunder by any ordinance of man. Let not man put them asunder; not the husband himself, nor any one for him; not the magistrate, God never gave him authority to do it. The God of Israel hath said, that he hateth putting away. It is a general rule that man must not go about to put asunder what God hath joined together.

Our quote for today is from Gary Chapman. He said, “People do not get married planning to divorce. Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as teammates in an intimate relationship.’”

The problem we are discussing today is “Divorce” (part 1) from the book, “The Guide to Biblical Counseling” by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

PORTRAITS
Jennifer was served with divorce papers after her husband had an affair with a co-worker. She was devastated and begged him to attend counseling, but he has no interest in saving the marriage.
Doug’s wife walked out two years ago, leaving him alone to care for their three-year-old son. “Son didn’t want to be a mother anymore,” he says. He wonders if he should file for divorce and move on with his life.
Emily’s husband has beaten her since they were married five years ago. He always apologies, and she always takes him back, but then it happens again and the cycle is repeated. “As a Christian, I feel I have to stay with him,” she explains, “but I’m tired of being a punching bag.”
Luke and Cathryn fight constantly over everything. “I’m worried our fighting is hurting the children,” Cathryn sighs. “I think they’d be better off if we would divorce. At least they would have a peaceful home.”

DEFINITIONS AND KEY THOUGHTS
Divorce and recovery will be something today’s pastors will deal with much more than their predecessors.
According to the 2000 census, for some U.S. ethnic populations, single-parent households outnumber home with a married-couple family.
Research by The Barna Group shows that 35 percent of married people endure a divorce, and 18 percent of divorced people are divorced multiple times. Multiple divorces are extraordinarily common among born-again Christians—23 percent are divorced two or more times.
Almost half (46 percent) from the Baby Boomer generation have undergone a marital split, and millions more are expected to divorce in the next ten years. As for younger generations, they are likely to reach similar numbers. It is estimated that somewhere between 40 and 50 percent of marriages that begin this year will end in divorce.

Age at Marriage for Those Who Divorce in America
Age Women Men
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Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5.% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%

For marriages with children, Wallerstein and Blakeslee (in their book The Good Marriage) state from clinical experience that many children to battle with consequential unhappiness even ten to fifteen years after the divorce of their parents.
Although Christian churches try to dissuade congregants from divorce, the rate of divorce among Christians is identical to the non-Christian population (35 percent). This data is not from those recently converted to faith, for data shows such divorces rarely occur before the married persons have accepted Christ as their Savior.
Divorce is a death in every sense of the word—the death of a marriage, a family, and a dream. No one, especially a Christian, enters marriage expecting the marriage.

Dr. Judith Wallerstein, “Children feel that their childhood has been lost forever. Divorce is a price they pay as forfeiture to their parents’ failures, jeopardizing their future lives.”

In our next broadcast, we will continue looking at the problem of Divorce.

—–PRAYER—–

Now, if you are listening today, and you do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as your Saviour, allow me to show you how.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now this is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9-13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

If you have other questions about life’s problems for this podcast, please email us coach@ordainedchaplainsusa.org.

Until next time, my friend remember that God has a solution to all of your problems.

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